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five ways to stay positive in negativity, by julie fuimano, easy to be positive in a positive environment. it s when things are emotionally draining and negative that you re challenged to behave differently. but you have the opportunity to be the beacon of light for others around you. by your actions and responses, you can demonstrate and teach others how to behave in an appropriate, positive and professional manner., positive energy catches on just as quickly as negative energy. sometimes people are simply stuck in a habit or pattern of behavior and are accustomed to acting a certain way. if the environment is really caustic, then it s what people are used to and may be all they know., it takes some time and effort as well as a commitment to do something differently to create sustainable change. you must be willing to identify and stop tolerating what s not working, do the right thing even if it s initially unpopular and then teach others to do the same., here are five ways you can be a positive force in your workplace ., first step is awareness, recognize the negativity around you. sometimes you can even feel your energy being drained by the words being spoken. if it feels bad or uncomfortable, then it s negative. these feelings are a form of intelligence similar to a tap on the shoulder letting you know something is not right. if you can identify what is happening, you can make good choices about handling it., it all starts with you, in what ways are you contributing to the negativity around you are you listening to gossip or participating in conversations where the only focus is to denigrate, diminish or criticize language matters. everything you say has an impact; saying something negative not only dishonors the person you re speaking about and the person you re speaking with, but it also makes you feel bad even if you don tsp realize it. learn to respect people s humanity and their right to be themselves. complaining without end does not focus on creating solutions; rather, it perpetuates and magnifies the problem, wasting everyone s precious time and energy., speak up, tell the other person how you feel by saying , this doesn tsp work for me. it s nonjudgmental, since you re making it about you, not them. also, people often don tsp realize they are being negative. point it out in a gentle, caring way: do you realize you are complaining just bringing it to their attention can be enough to shift the conversation. over time, people will learn what they can and cannot discuss with you, and it will stop being an issue. if you say nothing, your silence conveys permission to continue., be constructive , positive, meaningful and beneficial, what is the point or purpose of what you re saying is it to hurt or help and at the end of the conversation, is there an action step to take constructive conversations are empowering and leave people a little better off from having participated in them. become the kind of person who takes your time and words seriously., praise and acknowledge, amazing what a few words of praise and acknowledgement can do. you want to be the kind of person people gravitate to because they know they will be uplifted by you, not put down or drained of life-sustaining energy. in short, you want people to feel good after being in your presence., no matter what is going on around you , you control your inner environment and how you choose to respond to external events and situations. it s your responsibility to become the kind of person you enjoy being and with whom others enjoy being around., it takes a true leader to walk a path different from the crowd. so when others are negative, stretch your boldness muscles and be positive in spite of what others do or think. it s the only way to create a ripple of change. and if we all do our part, then slowly but surely, we will make a difference in our work environment and the larger community.

dried bamboo leaves (soaked overnight), glutinous rice, (soaked overnight or at least 4-6 hours, drained), mushroom (soaked and drained, cut into half ), dried shrimps (soaked and drained ), chestnuts (soaked overnight, cleaned), pork belly cut into 30 pieces, shallots (cut into thin slices), peanuts (boil to cooked, drained), cooking oil, hemp/raffia strings to tie, salted duck egg yolk, dried oyster, dried chinese sausage, glutinous rice seasoning, dark soya sauce - mix till brown colour to your liking, five spice powder, salt - to your taste, pepper, pork belly marinade, light soya sauce, pepper

boneless skinless chicken breasts, chinese five spice powder, chili flakes, to your taste, soy sauce, mushrooms, red pepper, fresh ginger, minced, garlic cloves, minced, bean sprouts, snow peas, baby corn, water chestnuts, scallions, ramen noodles (just noodles no seasoning), soy sauce, hot sauce

canola oil, sweet onions, thinly sliced, garlic, minced, pure maple syrup, tetri-pack of fat free beef broth or your own beef broth, chopped fresh thyme leaves, salt & pepper tp taste (or mccormick s no added citrus & pepper), baguette, toasted, shredded five year old canadian cheddar cheese

grain cereal, buttermilk, egg, brown sugar, maple syrup (optional), melted butter, flour, chopped dried fruit, your choice, baking powder, baking soda, salt, cinnamon

chinese-style pork spareribs (ask the butcher to separate them for you so you don tsp have to do it yourself at home.), chinese five-spice powder, garlic cloves, crushed, chili sauce, dark soy sauce, dark brown sugar, sunflower oil, scallions, finely chopped for garnish

five 19oz cans of black beans, two 19 oz cans of seasoned diced tomatoes, onion, head garlic, green chilis (4oz), chipotle peppers or chipotle sauce, chili pepper blend to your taste (pre-made chili seasoning packet is fine), fresh ground black pepper, salt (optional), peice of dark chocolate, oil, ground beef (optional), garnish with parsley

possum , removed from your high beams, skinned and dressed or 5 lbs pork roast, browned on all sides, onion, sliced, fennel bulb, sliced, garlic cloves, quartered and stuffed into possum, potatoes , fingerlings, carrots , chunked, celery ribs, chunked, salt and pepper, bouquet garni, onion soup mix, water

ground pork best to start with whole cuts and grind your own, thai basil finely chopped, garlic finely chopped, scallions finely chopped, nuoc mam, sriracha, brown sugar, cornstarch, coarse ground black pepper, salt, ground pork best to start with whole cuts and grind your own, garlic finely chopped, ginger finely chopped, jalapeno or other hot pepper finely chopped, zest of 1 lime, nuoc mam, light soy sauce, fresh lime juice, brownsugar, five spice powder, cornstarch, fat free mayo, scallions finely sliced, sriracha, carrots julienned, daikon radish julienned, rice vinegar gently warmed, brown sugar, salt, crushed red pepper, shallots thinly sliced and fried til golden, cilantro 4-6 per sandwich, sliced chiles thinly sliced , 4-6 slices per sandwich, sliced cukes peeled, halved, seeded, thinly sliced, french baguettes cut in 6 portions, liver sausage or pate enough to spread

sirloin, cubed for stew (your butcher can do this), diced tomatoes and green chilis, stewed tomatoes, vegetable oil, garlic powder or, if you completely disdain its use, 1 or two minced cloves of garlic, five spice powder, frozen corn , or half a large package

asian dark sesame oil, lamb shanks, coarse salt, sugar, chinese five spice powder, fresh ground black pepper, tomato base barbecue sauce, hoisin sauce, rice wine, sriracha sauce (or your favorite hot sauce), wood chips, soaked for 1 hour in water to cover, then drained (oak is preferred)

onion, chopped, garlic clove, chopped, dried red pepper flakes (use less for a milder dish), lamb shoulder, cubes (trimmed of as much fat as possible and cut into small (1/2 inch), fresh tomatoes, skinned, seeded and roughly chopped, turmeric, cumin, five-spice powder, cinnamon, salt, water, garbanzo beans, drained and rinsed (chickpeas), dried macaroni (use your favorite soup pasta)

squash or 1 small butternut or 1 small acorn , your favorite, minute brown rice, frozen mixed vegetables, vegetable stock cube (or chicken if you prefer), water or 2 cups white wine, approximately, pepper , to taste, chinese five spice powder , to taste

salad oil, duck breasts, skinless, granny smith apples, peeled cored, and diced small, raisins, chinese five-spice powder, chopped fresh garlic (1 garlic clove), chopped red onion, chopped fresh cilantro leaves, salt and freshly ground black pepper, wonton skins, duck sauce , soy sauce, chinese hot sauce, or your other favorite dipping sauce