15 what you not Recipes

five ways to stay positive in negativity, by julie fuimano, easy to be positive in a positive environment. it s when things are emotionally draining and negative that you re challenged to behave differently. but you have the opportunity to be the beacon of light for others around you. by your actions and responses, you can demonstrate and teach others how to behave in an appropriate, positive and professional manner., positive energy catches on just as quickly as negative energy. sometimes people are simply stuck in a habit or pattern of behavior and are accustomed to acting a certain way. if the environment is really caustic, then it s what people are used to and may be all they know., it takes some time and effort as well as a commitment to do something differently to create sustainable change. you must be willing to identify and stop tolerating what s not working, do the right thing even if it s initially unpopular and then teach others to do the same., here are five ways you can be a positive force in your workplace ., first step is awareness, recognize the negativity around you. sometimes you can even feel your energy being drained by the words being spoken. if it feels bad or uncomfortable, then it s negative. these feelings are a form of intelligence similar to a tap on the shoulder letting you know something is not right. if you can identify what is happening, you can make good choices about handling it., it all starts with you, in what ways are you contributing to the negativity around you are you listening to gossip or participating in conversations where the only focus is to denigrate, diminish or criticize language matters. everything you say has an impact; saying something negative not only dishonors the person you re speaking about and the person you re speaking with, but it also makes you feel bad even if you don tsp realize it. learn to respect people s humanity and their right to be themselves. complaining without end does not focus on creating solutions; rather, it perpetuates and magnifies the problem, wasting everyone s precious time and energy., speak up, tell the other person how you feel by saying , this doesn tsp work for me. it s nonjudgmental, since you re making it about you, not them. also, people often don tsp realize they are being negative. point it out in a gentle, caring way: do you realize you are complaining just bringing it to their attention can be enough to shift the conversation. over time, people will learn what they can and cannot discuss with you, and it will stop being an issue. if you say nothing, your silence conveys permission to continue., be constructive , positive, meaningful and beneficial, what is the point or purpose of what you re saying is it to hurt or help and at the end of the conversation, is there an action step to take constructive conversations are empowering and leave people a little better off from having participated in them. become the kind of person who takes your time and words seriously., praise and acknowledge, amazing what a few words of praise and acknowledgement can do. you want to be the kind of person people gravitate to because they know they will be uplifted by you, not put down or drained of life-sustaining energy. in short, you want people to feel good after being in your presence., no matter what is going on around you , you control your inner environment and how you choose to respond to external events and situations. it s your responsibility to become the kind of person you enjoy being and with whom others enjoy being around., it takes a true leader to walk a path different from the crowd. so when others are negative, stretch your boldness muscles and be positive in spite of what others do or think. it s the only way to create a ripple of change. and if we all do our part, then slowly but surely, we will make a difference in our work environment and the larger community.

old age, i decided , is a gift., i am now , probably for the first time in my life, the person i have always wanted to be., i would never trade my amazing friends , my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. as i ve aged, i ve become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. i ve become my own friend., i don tsp chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that i didn tsp need, but looks so avant garde on my patio. i am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant., whose business is it if i choose to read or play on the computer until 4 am and sleep until noon, i will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50 s, 60 s, & 70 s, and if i, wish i will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if i choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set., will get old ., i know i am sometimes forgetful. but there again , some of life is just as well forgotten. and i eventually remember the important things.., over the years my heart has been broken ..., but broken hearts are what give us strength andunderstanding and compassion. a heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect., i am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. so many have never laughed, and so may have died before their hair could turn silver., as you get older , it is easier to be positive. you care less about what other people think. i don tsp question myself anymore. i ve even earned the right to be wrong., answer your question , i like being old. it has set me free.. i like the person i have become., i am not going to live forever, but while i am still here, i will not waste time lamenting about what could have been, or worrying about what will be. and i shall eat dessert every single day. (if i feel like it), may our friendship never come apart especially when it s straight from the heart, may you always have a rainbow of smiles on your face and in your heart forever and ever

butter (1/2 stick), onion, chopped, red bell pepper, chopped (i like a large chop on this, but do what you like), cumin (i usually add a lot more), cayenne pepper (or to taste), all-purpose flour, canned chicken broth, whole milk (do not substitute low or non-fat), whole kernel corn, drained , liquid reserved, creamed corn, frozen corn (more or less , depending on how thick you want the soup), cilantro, chopped (add cilantro to taste), sour cream, for garnish

ground beef (mix what you like, beef, veal, pork combo is best), fresh ground black pepper (more than you probably think there should be), sea salt (to taste), fresh parsley, finely chopped, eggs, grain rice (rinse and soak the rice for about 1 hour, cooking in the halupki will do the rest), onion (finely chopped ), crushed red pepper flakes, garlic powder (to taste), ketchup (optional), tomato soup (optional), sauerkraut (rinsed or not , depending how sour you like it), onions, thickly sliced, cabbage, bay leaves (laurel), garlic cloves (coarsely chopped ), kielbasa, caraway seed, tomato sauce, whole tomatoes , crush by hand (with liquid)

ground beef, onion, diced, minced garlic, salt and pepper, cheese whiz, steak seasoning (you do not not have to have this you can use what ever you like to season the meat), hamburger bun

fresh green beans cut into 1 1/2 pieces, frozen baby lima beans thawed, frozen black eye peas thawed, leamon juice, extra virgin olive oil, chopped green scallions, salt and pepper to taste, fresh choppe dill ( optional )

how many : enough sweet potatoes for everybody, unsalted butter, brown sugar, salt

sour cream (i like the less fat , i m not a fan of the no fat, but use what you like), stone ground mustard (dijon just doesn tsp have the same taste), capers (more or less to taste), parsley, fine chopped, pepper, salt , but go easy as the capers are y, catfish fillet, cooked, celery, very fine diced, red onion, very fine diced, vidalia onion, very fine diced (or any sweet onion), scallion, very fine chopped (white and green parts ), egg whites, beaten, egg, beaten, parmesan cheese, grated, panko breadcrumbs (if you use italian bread crumbs, use the unseasoned, but panko is much better), parsley, old bay seasoning (any good seafood seasoning will work), salt, pepper, olive oil to saute the vegetables, and to fry the fish cakes, lemon, cut into wedges

best quality whole chocolate milk (this is important for good flavor! i use trader s point organic grassfed or make my own with droste coacoa powder and a bit of brown sugar to taste - just no high fructose corn syrup overly sweetened stuff please!), brown sugar - or white granulated if that is what you have. (once the mixture is frozen, it won tsp taste as sweet as it did unfrozen. trader s point is not too sweet, so i make it a bit sweeter for freezing and i like the flavor of best.), cream cheese, half tsp optional flavor extract or oil (like orange or raspberry or almond or coconut or...), egg, mexican crema , or sour cream, or ceme fraiche

i fell in love with this recipe. i love anything tomato based. this is like tomato sauce and chunks of all your favorite fish. you add whatever fish you like. and get a huge loaf of crusty bread and butter! i basically modify this recipe to my own sauce, so can you add what fish you like. just a great great recipe! you can make this your own! everyone thinks this is italian it is not. chip in . chip in as a call heard on the world famous fisherman s wharf in it s early heyday before world war ii. this was a call for san francisco s mainly italian immigrant fisherman coming home with their catch of pacific seafood to donate a small portion of their catch for a communal fish stew prepared on the docks. anything would do. a few clams, mussels. adding some red snapper, a crab or two, some scallops some halibut or flounder, anything to add to the fragrant stew that would soon be served to the club of san francisco fisherman who would talk about the days catch and dunk san francisco sour dough bread into the rich broth. eventually the broken english cries of chip in turned into chip-in-o . hence the name cioppino . this is a rich seafood stew with not much care as to how it was assembled. this consisted of throwing the days catch into a big pot and pouring sauce into the pot with the shellfish and chunks of what fish was available. let all these flavors enhance each other for awhile and you have the most flavorful and messy to eat stew that ever was., turns around the pan in a slow stream ) extra-virgin olive oil, crushed red pepper flakes, flat fillets of anchovies, drained, garlic, crushed, bay leaf, fresh or dried, celery ribs, chopped, onion, chopped, good quality dry white wine ( i am sure even beer works), chicken stock, chunky style crushed tomatoes, fresh thyme, leaves removed (about 1 tbsp), handful flat-leaf parsley, chopped, cod, cut into 2-inch chunks, salt and pepper, shrimp , ask for deveined easy-peel or peel and devein, sea scallops, raw mussels , scrubbed, a loaf of fresh , crusty bread, for mopping up!! or 2 loaves depending on quanity and people eating this.

unsalted butter, fresh ewes milk (sheeps milk which has a heavier fat content than regular milk), lacking this (what it s not in your local grocery ) use feta cheese as a substitute., capers chopped finely, paprika, chives chopped, caraway seeds ground coarsely, anchovies chopped fine (now for those that don;tsp like anchovy this only adds a fresh sea saltiness and if chopped or pureed you won;tsp even know it s there), salt , black pepper

hamburger buns (a good onion roll is what i prefer, or good kaiser roll), ground beef, ground turkey, hickory smoked bacon, diced very fine, onion, diced very fine, fresh breadcrumb, worcestershire sauce, barbecue sauce (plain right from the jar), nonstick cooking spray, to fry the burgers, onion, thin sliced, honey, butter, adobo sauce (not the chipolte), salt, pepper, barbecue sauce (i prefer a hickory or smoky brand, use your favorites), mayonnaise, honey, chipotle chile in adobo, chopped fine (according to taste you can use more or less), smoky gouda cheese, grated, bibb lettuce (i prefer a soft lettuce vs a romaine or iceberg), tomato , slices (optional)