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five ways to stay positive in negativity, by julie fuimano, easy to be positive in a positive environment. it s when things are emotionally draining and negative that you re challenged to behave differently. but you have the opportunity to be the beacon of light for others around you. by your actions and responses, you can demonstrate and teach others how to behave in an appropriate, positive and professional manner., positive energy catches on just as quickly as negative energy. sometimes people are simply stuck in a habit or pattern of behavior and are accustomed to acting a certain way. if the environment is really caustic, then it s what people are used to and may be all they know., it takes some time and effort as well as a commitment to do something differently to create sustainable change. you must be willing to identify and stop tolerating what s not working, do the right thing even if it s initially unpopular and then teach others to do the same., here are five ways you can be a positive force in your workplace ., first step is awareness, recognize the negativity around you. sometimes you can even feel your energy being drained by the words being spoken. if it feels bad or uncomfortable, then it s negative. these feelings are a form of intelligence similar to a tap on the shoulder letting you know something is not right. if you can identify what is happening, you can make good choices about handling it., it all starts with you, in what ways are you contributing to the negativity around you are you listening to gossip or participating in conversations where the only focus is to denigrate, diminish or criticize language matters. everything you say has an impact; saying something negative not only dishonors the person you re speaking about and the person you re speaking with, but it also makes you feel bad even if you don tsp realize it. learn to respect people s humanity and their right to be themselves. complaining without end does not focus on creating solutions; rather, it perpetuates and magnifies the problem, wasting everyone s precious time and energy., speak up, tell the other person how you feel by saying , this doesn tsp work for me. it s nonjudgmental, since you re making it about you, not them. also, people often don tsp realize they are being negative. point it out in a gentle, caring way: do you realize you are complaining just bringing it to their attention can be enough to shift the conversation. over time, people will learn what they can and cannot discuss with you, and it will stop being an issue. if you say nothing, your silence conveys permission to continue., be constructive , positive, meaningful and beneficial, what is the point or purpose of what you re saying is it to hurt or help and at the end of the conversation, is there an action step to take constructive conversations are empowering and leave people a little better off from having participated in them. become the kind of person who takes your time and words seriously., praise and acknowledge, amazing what a few words of praise and acknowledgement can do. you want to be the kind of person people gravitate to because they know they will be uplifted by you, not put down or drained of life-sustaining energy. in short, you want people to feel good after being in your presence., no matter what is going on around you , you control your inner environment and how you choose to respond to external events and situations. it s your responsibility to become the kind of person you enjoy being and with whom others enjoy being around., it takes a true leader to walk a path different from the crowd. so when others are negative, stretch your boldness muscles and be positive in spite of what others do or think. it s the only way to create a ripple of change. and if we all do our part, then slowly but surely, we will make a difference in our work environment and the larger community.

old age, i decided , is a gift., i am now , probably for the first time in my life, the person i have always wanted to be., i would never trade my amazing friends , my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. as i ve aged, i ve become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. i ve become my own friend., i don tsp chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that i didn tsp need, but looks so avant garde on my patio. i am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant., whose business is it if i choose to read or play on the computer until 4 am and sleep until noon, i will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50 s, 60 s, & 70 s, and if i, wish i will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if i choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set., will get old ., i know i am sometimes forgetful. but there again , some of life is just as well forgotten. and i eventually remember the important things.., over the years my heart has been broken ..., but broken hearts are what give us strength andunderstanding and compassion. a heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect., i am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. so many have never laughed, and so may have died before their hair could turn silver., as you get older , it is easier to be positive. you care less about what other people think. i don tsp question myself anymore. i ve even earned the right to be wrong., answer your question , i like being old. it has set me free.. i like the person i have become., i am not going to live forever, but while i am still here, i will not waste time lamenting about what could have been, or worrying about what will be. and i shall eat dessert every single day. (if i feel like it), may our friendship never come apart especially when it s straight from the heart, may you always have a rainbow of smiles on your face and in your heart forever and ever

raw fish heads, bones, tail , and lobster tail shell, whole fresh bay leaves, coarse sea salt, whole black peppercorns, water, olive oil, divided, onion, coarsely chopped, fennel bulb, coarsely chopped, coarse sea salt, divided, dry white wine, diced tomatoes, undrained, fresh flat-leaf parsley, chopped, orange peel , optional, saffron, firm fish fillets, such as farmed cobia or wild striped bass (1 or 2 types), skin and bones removed, cut into 1-inch pieces, at room temperature, flaky fish fillets, such as black cod, wild halibut, or black rockfish (1 or 2 types), skin and bones removed, cut into 1-inch pieces, at room temperature, garlic, crushed, cayenne pepper, mussels, cleaned and beards trimmed, at room temperature, raw lobster tail, shell removed and meat cut into 1-inch pieces, at room temperature, baguette, sliced, garlic, cut in half, recipe rouille , recipe follows, optional, red bell pepper, garlic, peeled, fresh red chile, stem removed and seeded, freshly squeezed lemon juice, coarse sea salt, olive oil